There are seven fundamental types of catastrophes. Beauty is not one of them.
Transitioning from relaxed to natural sans the big chop can be one of the most frustrating experiences for those desiring to “go natural”. There’s a reason why so many naturals advise against the long-term transition and encourage a quick big chop instead. Managing two different textures and dealing with tangled ends, partially straight & partially curly hair while trying to find the right products and regimen has left many of us fighting tears of frustration, yearning for the creamy crack & wondering what the hell we were thinking, maybe natural ain’t for everybody!
But that’s where resources play a major role! I transitioned for 21 months, wearing a weave for six, and then another 14 months of gradual trims until I was completely natural. Looking back, I think it would’ve been far more freeing and far less frustrating had I big chopped at the beginning. But when you’re used to having hair of a certain length, a big chop can seem overwhelming as it did for me. I wasn’t 100% sure I wanted to go natural at all, but I felt I needed a fresh start hair wise & if it hadn’t been for the severely damaged state of my hair, I’d probably still be relaxed today.
While Carol’s Daughter offers a kit for transitioning hair, I know I wouldn’t have been able to endure the process solo. Had it not been for a stylist who was also natural and able to tend to my tresses at a reasonable rate after Sheri relocated to another state, I don’t know what I would’ve done. And the times I tried to handle it at home often resulted in tears & a breakdown where I’d vow to return to relaxers! But I hung in there & found the end was much better than the transition…
So if you’re like me & struggling to stick to your natural journey while transitioning, allow me to share some helpful resources to make the walk a little less painful:
Above all else, here’s my BBC rule!